I am very prone to wander in the discipline of thankfulness as a believer. I am very slowly learning to watch myself most vigorously in this area of my life. And inasmuch as I struggle with this, I long for my children to display thankfulness in their lives.
Aaron and I have been pondering this question over the past several weeks in our home:
How do we cultivate thankfulness in Savannah and Aubrey?
It goes so much further than saying thank you. So much further than not saying Yuck! when food is placed in front of them. (Although, of course, we want those things to be very present in our childrens’ lives.)
Yes. It’s more than just good manners. It’s about their 2 and 3 year old hearts just like it is about my 29 year old one.
I Thess. 5:16 urges us to “….give thanks in all circumstances….”
Hebrews 12:28 shakes things up a whole lot to me when it declares the truth of thankfulness being associated with eternity. “Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe, for our ‘God is a consuming fire’.”
Here’s the bottom line for the believer in regards to thankfulness: we can count our blessings one by one or, for most of us, fifty by fifty, but it does not mean a thing until are beyond astounded, totally thankful for the ultimate blessing bestowed upon us. That is, God’s gift of eternal life through His Son Jesus.
I am fully aware that Savannah and Aubrey have not been given that ultimate gift yet. Yet I know they are watching me like two little sweet hawks (can hawks be sweet?) to see if I am being thankful for the gift of salvation I tell them I have been given and to see if I am acting accordingly…even if they don’t really know they are doing that yet.
Someone pulls out in front of me while driving. Will I still be thankful?
Dinner burns in the oven. Will I lift up a prayer of thankfulness for their little ears to hear?
I have a huge headache. Will I demonstrate thankfulness even so?
If I have the eternal perspective in my mind and in my heart that I am called to demonstrate, yes I will. If I believe that these little things are just that~little things~in the light of the big picture, I will still be thankful. I will still lift of a prayer of thankfulness. I will demonstrate a heart of thanksgiving. Now you and I both know that I don’t always have that sort of perspective in mind…and if you think I do, just ask that sweet husband of mine.
Yet in the light of what really matters and that is God’s glory, little things that get us down don’t really matter.
So, how do we cultivate thankfulness in our children? Ultimately, by example. And pray that one day it will become not just part of their words and expected actions but part of their hearts too.
What about every day examples?
We are in the process of getting rid of toys/putting up toys for indefinite storage for the girls. They have a lot. And, yes, we may even be getting rid of some they play with a lot. That’s not the point. I am much slower to learn this…Aaron is helping me. The point is we are seeking to guard them against, frankly put, being spoiled.
And we are thankful that we do see them saying “thank you” for the little things in their lives. Like a new pair of tennis shoes. And the purple flip flops that were lost over a month ago at PopPop and Honey’s house, only to be returned a few days later. It’s still one of the first things Savannah will name when asked what she wants to thank the Lord for. And naming specific family members and friends they are thankful for.
What are some ways you are cultivating thankfulness in your childrens’ lives?
I’ll end with a story I heard a few months ago that still brings tears to my eyes. A family of 6 children, ages ranging from 4 to 14, decided to use the money that their parents’ would use on their Christmas gifts and buy gifts for single moms and their children who would otherwise have no gifts. One Saturday, they invited these moms and their children over to their home and they had a party for them, complete with food and gift giving. The house was full. The presents were opened with elation. The smiles were huge. And what did those 6 kids get on Christmas morning? Not the kind of gifts that most of their friends were getting that day. Something much bigger. Much more eternal. The realization of knowing a bit better what it meant for God the Father to give His Son to a world in need.
Now that is cultivating thankfulness. And that is a picture of God’s mercy poured upon a precious family.
Save us, O Lord our God and gather us from among the nations, that we may give thanks to Your holy name and glory in Your praise. Ps. 106:47